Spring- NOW is the time for change!

Forget New Years’ Resolutions… Here’s 6 Steps towards your Spring Creations.

IMG_4601Do you feel your energy levels, enthusiasm and positivity rise as the days get lighter and the nature around starts to wake up from the winter? You might even feel a physical release and opening as the days warm up, a sudden urge to get out more and start exercising. Spring is the time for coming out of hibernation, for creativity, for new beginnings. For those of us living in the Northern Hemisphere, that is what nature is doing out there right now, and lets not forget that we humans ARE nature too! Two years ago I started boycotting New Years Resolutions and now put my energy into Spring Creations instead and it feels a lot more easeful, joyful and creative.

Why do most New Year resolutions fail?

Our calendar new year on 1st January is in the midst of winter. They are called resolutions because we need so much resolve to muster-up the energy to sustain change against all odds. Whilst the rest of nature is slowing down, turning inwards or just being, we humans think we can over-ride the wisdom of all that. We mean well, we have good intentions, and some of us may succeed but we’re not being smart, and we’re not setting ourselves up for success. In comparison, in Spring everything feels so much easier! For example, last week I finally found the motivation to start training in the swimming pool to build my stamina for (summer) sea swimming in Brighton. (Yes, in the British channel!) I put aside my general dislike for public swimming pools and the fact that I can’t do more than two lengths of crawl in a row, and discovered that I CAN do it, I’m actually enjoying it AND it’s having an unexpected positive effect on my mood! What remained a good intention all winter, just sprung into being in Spring. What will your Spring Creations be?

6 Steps to Discover your Spring Creations:

Step 1 Be in it!- Go outside look for signs of spring in nature (buds, shooting crocus, daffodils, bird-song, or just the warmer air) and take a moment to just be part of it all. If you can’t go outside, sit by a window to do this exercise.

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Step 2 Listen & feel for it! – Pay attention to your body, feel for and notice any feelings of rising energy and new enthusiasm. Is it located anywhere specific? What does it feel like? Is it like a soft flicker or a great surge? Be curious. What’s the new that is sprouting up from within? What do you notice you have enthusiasm for? What ideas are waiting to be born?

Step 3 Contain it! (This one is challenging for many of us action-orientated achievers.) As you feel the energy for something new emerging, resist the temptation to act on it all at once and blow all your new energy too soon. Buds and bulbs don’t just suddenly explode into full bloom at the first sign of spring but gradually evolve day after day. Reserve that energy for the full expression of summer. For now what you need to do is…

Step 4 Nurture it!- We live in a culture that encourages us to strive for perfection, requires instantaneous expertise. As soon as we’ve had an idea we need to show the plan, the business case, prove that it will be a success or that we can deliver results. What will it take to create a safe space for the new to grow? How can you protect the vulnerability and innocence of the new? Can you let go of your attachment to outcomes or fears of consequence? Can you bring a beginner’s mind, stay open and curious towards it?

Step 5 Experiment & play with it!- What could you do to experiment with the new? Can you be playful with it? Take a risk. If you let go of getting it right what would you do? Remember a bulb doesn’t grow only if it will grow into a perfect flower… it just gets on with it. If you brought the spirit of play to this what would be different?

Step 6 Spring Clean around it!-What do you need to let go of that’s no longer needed or that stands in the way of the new?

Want to explore this further?

Contact me about the following coaching options. I am offering 25% discount for bookings before the 20th March (Spring equinox). celine@dowhatmatters.co.uk

IMG_4602A ‘Spring Creations’ one-to-one coaching session– This is a 90 minute coaching session for you to explore and create the new that you want to bring into your life this spring. Make the most of the new possibilities that come with this new season. Don’t let your everyday busy-ness and auto-pilot over-ride your natural energy and make you miss the opportunity!

Four-Seasons coaching package.Based on nature’s template for the creative process, this package offers 4 one-to-one 90 minute coaching sessions at key points throughout the year. If we can tune into the natural cycles of nature more often, it’s like having an in-built creativity coach that will help us access our inspiration, nurture our creativity and hear our own wisdom. Learn to use nature as your coach.

  • Spring Creations- Working with renewal of energy and enthusiasm to make way for new beginnings, ideas and creativity.
  • Summer Expressions –Take a pause to decide what matters most to you right now? What will deserve full expression of your potential? Bring your full mastery & highest energy to it.
  • Autumn Reflections –Time to acknowledge your achievements and reflect on what’s not serving you anymore. Finding ways to ‘say no’, end things or allow them to fall away.
  • Winter Reconnections –Time to reconnect with self and loved ones. Creating space for and building your capacity for stillness and presence (especially in the frenetic build-up and during end of year activity and festivities).

For those of you living in the southern hemisphere, reverse offer available! I’m also curious to hear from you about how the changing cycle of nature around you impact your life and work.

This blog is one of my own ‘spring creations’ and is inspired by the work of A. Pope and S. Hugo Wurlitzer authors of Wild Power. If we can tune into the natural cycles of nature more, it’s like having an in-built creativity coach that will help us access our inspiration, nurture our creativity and hear our own wisdom.

 

 

How do Sustainability & Meaning at Work Connect? 15th September, London

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Join me and Dr Marjolein Lips Wiersma (right in the picture) Professor of Ethics and Sustainability Leadership at AUT in New Zealand and co-author of The Map of Meaning in a conversation exploring Sustainability & Meaning at Work. 10am-12noon on Friday 15th September in Central London.

As UK Lead for Map of meaning International, I am delighted to be co-hosting this rare opportunity of Marjolein being in the UK to explore the topic of how we can better engage people in sustainability. Marjolein has experience in introducing sustainability into management courses and working with people as they engage with the issues for themselves and in their organisations. This has given her a deep understanding of the reality of engagement and change.  As developer of the Map of Meaning, a simple framework which captures intrinsic motivation, she brings new knowledge into the discussion: how understanding the experience of meaningful work can support engagement and practical action. Find out more about the Map of Meaning www.holisticdevelopment.org.nz
 
I have been using this foundational framework for the last 8 years in my coaching practice www.dowhatmatters.co.uk  and in global leadership development programs and organisational interventions with www.futureconsiderations.com. It has proven to be a universal tool that connects people to the essence of what motivates them in life as well as to how they can meaningfully be of service to people and planet. As a result I have found that working with the map enables us to connect individuals or groups to sustainability issues whilst starting from their agenda, their motivations- essentially from what matters to them.
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The conversation will be hosted at the wonderfully appropriate Skip Garden, 10 minutes walk from St Pancras Station in London, generously made available by  ane Riddeford Founding Director of the charity www.globalgeneration.org.uk. To help towards the charity covering the cost of the room rental we are asking for a £10 contribution to the venue cost to be put in a jar on the day please. For those of us who want to continue the conversation afterwards we can have lunch in the Skip Garden Kitchen Cafe.  Directions are attached.
 
RSVP
So that we can keep track of how many people are attending please let me know if you would like to attend celine@dowhatmatters.co.uk

What does Tango reveal to us about what really matters?

IMG_1834Yup that’s me in the picture… and it’s fair to say that I am an Argentine Tango addict! I started dancing 10 years ago and got the bug. It has taught me that being able to do what matters in life is just as much about who we are BEING as what we are DOING. Tango is a space where I connect deeply with others without words and without thinking. This is directly in contrast to the rest of the time when I’m mostly connecting with other people through words, through thinking, and increasingly, thanks to virtual technology, through a screen!

So what’s so great about connecting without words and without thinking? Well, it somehow invites a different side of me to show up. In tango, I have to let go of wanting to control things. I have to put my ego aside so that I can truly connect to whoever my partner is and be present to follow his (or her!) lead. In that moment I feel myself melting into connection. All that matters is our connection, the music and movement we are improvising together. See this for yourself in this video of Pepe Rusconi, legend of the Tango Vals. He dances the whole first half of this dance without using his arms at all to lead his partner. Pure connection.

It’s the same dance between coach and coachee. When I work with my clients, to get to what matters most, we often need to get out of our heads and listen to what we know in our gut and what we feel in our body. Thankfully there are lots of easy and creative ways to access these different ways of knowing without having to put on a pair of tango shoes and dance cheek-to-cheek with complete strangers! Our bodies are not just a transport system for our heads. If we can tune into our bodies we can discover amazing things about ourselves. The ‘tango me’ is more powerful, feminine, grounded, seductive, fluid, and adaptable. I’m working on how I can bring more of this into other parts of my life and work, including my coaching practice. One thing is for sure…the tango ‘me’ has got more of a chance when my ego and head are not in it’s way.

Who’s the ‘you’ that’s hiding behind your ego?

Fancy a Meaningful Workplace?

Fancy a more meaningful workplace? How about starting starting with your own? In my previous blog post  I outlined why the Map of Meaning is such a powerful self-awareness tool. Here I’ll outline some of the ways we can work with the Map of Meaning in an organisational context, to create more meaningful workplaces. The first thing to say is that the possibilities are endless, no matter where you are starting from there is something you can do to make a difference.Map_of_Meaning_6 In their book The Map of Meaning- a guide to sustaining our humanity in the world of work, Marjolein Lips-Wiersma and Lani Morris have collated many examples of how they and others have worked with the Map of Meaning in an organizational context. As the Map of Meaning is a foundational tool, I have found that it lends itself easily to many different client situations, and can work easily in harmony with other tools the organisation may already have in place.  If you want to find out more then join Lani and I on 5th & 6th June a masterclass on Creating Meaningful Work and Workplaces. Here are just a few examples.

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Imagine a Map to navigate…Meaning

Imagine you could have a map which like all other maps, helps you chart your course in a place of meaning. Well there is, and I’ve been working with the Map of Meaning for the last 6 years as one of the foundational tools of the Do What Matters approach, with transformative results. I’ve used it one-to-one with coaching clients who are looking to make a change in their life and work, as well as with organisations.Map of Meaning-Model Copyright

There’s many reasons I love working with this tool, here’s just a few:

Meaning is not a destination but a ‘state’

Just like any other map, you first need to set yourself the intention of going to a place, like say France or Spain and when you get there, you use the map to find your way around the place. The Map of Meaning works in a similar way, first you set the intention to get to a more meaningful state of living or working, then you use the map to navigate your way around it. So interestingly, and this is obvious once it’s revealed to us, meaning is not a finite thing that is out there to be discovered. Meaning is a state or an experience. Continue reading

A Meaningful Journey

When I was in my early twenties and just beginning my working life, I was already preoccupied with the idea that if I was going to spend so much time at work, it had better be something meaningful. I had joined a large multi-national corporation, with the intention of leaving as soon as I had paid off my student debts to go and do something more meaningful. I thought that a more meaningful career would be in international development, working on global issues and challenges. Meaning Whiter Background Crop FinalWhilst I was learning a lot of really useful stuff, selling margarine to the masses wasn’t quite doing it for me in terms of meaning. Then I saw an advert in the Economist for a Masters in Responsibility and Business Practice, signed up and found myself amongst an amazing bunch of co-learners including Lani Morris, who was also searching for how we can bring more meaning into the workplace. We formed a long lasting friendship despite being on other sides of the planet (Lani is based in New Zealand).

Since then, the last 15 years have been an exploration of how to build more meaning into my life and work. Continue reading

What matters at Christmas?

Faced with an endless list of things to do and buy before Christmas, there’s a real risk of becoming cynical about Christmas.  The antidote is to shop and give mindfully rather than to shop on auto-pilot. This year I’ve chosen gifts at farmers markets, artists open-houses,  Gumtree and car-boot sales. I agreed to not exchange gifts with some people and also bought some toys I’d rather not have bought (I blame Father Christmas!). There’s no right and wrong in this, what matters at Christmas is being mindful in our choices and striking the right balance between our values, our budget, and thinking about what people need and would make them feel special and loved by you. Then we can focus on what matters most at Christmas which is being together, feeling gratitude for the gift of life, and enjoying the magic.